Lots of “gifted” children are essentially left alone with their problems and often didn’t get the education they needed, e.g. to learn how to actually put effort into learning. Someone with more willpower or something might have pulled through, but children generally need parenting and education to learn that kind of thing and chances are pretty good that their parents, schools etc. just failed those children.
IDK your exact story, but I think this idea that it’s entirely their own fault if they don’t succeed seems like the exact kind of mental pitfall that “burned-out gifted kids” would fall into.
Conversely, injuries often happen because the athletes don’t do things that are known to mitigate injuries, such as specific strength and mobility exercises, or are just pushing themselves too hard; though I assume that the education of young athletes in that area is usually lacking, too.
A huge chunk of life is things outside of your control. You only have control over how you react to those things.
Beyond that, if you got yourself into a mess, you can get yourself out. Any time where you’re only fighting against yourself is a time where the odds are better in your favor than usual.
It’s will draining work to fight yourself into a better state, can be soul crushing, and it sure as hell isn’t fucking easy, but it is possible.
Self-care isn’t always giving yourself grace to fail, but it’s also not just beating yourself up for past failures. Survival is a perfectly ok goal. Then attempt for comfort and vague happiness. Then maybe you should consider trying to “make something of yourself”.
Very few of our names will live on past the people immediately surrounding us. That can be freeing if you can frame it the right way. Very few “make it”. Most just “get by”, and that’s fine.
At least the injury probably wasn’t the jock’s fault. I got no one but me to blame for going nowhere with my life.
Lots of “gifted” children are essentially left alone with their problems and often didn’t get the education they needed, e.g. to learn how to actually put effort into learning. Someone with more willpower or something might have pulled through, but children generally need parenting and education to learn that kind of thing and chances are pretty good that their parents, schools etc. just failed those children.
IDK your exact story, but I think this idea that it’s entirely their own fault if they don’t succeed seems like the exact kind of mental pitfall that “burned-out gifted kids” would fall into.
Conversely, injuries often happen because the athletes don’t do things that are known to mitigate injuries, such as specific strength and mobility exercises, or are just pushing themselves too hard; though I assume that the education of young athletes in that area is usually lacking, too.
That’s… some pretty blantant disordered thinking.
A huge chunk of life is things outside of your control. You only have control over how you react to those things.
Beyond that, if you got yourself into a mess, you can get yourself out. Any time where you’re only fighting against yourself is a time where the odds are better in your favor than usual.
It’s will draining work to fight yourself into a better state, can be soul crushing, and it sure as hell isn’t fucking easy, but it is possible.
Self-care isn’t always giving yourself grace to fail, but it’s also not just beating yourself up for past failures. Survival is a perfectly ok goal. Then attempt for comfort and vague happiness. Then maybe you should consider trying to “make something of yourself”.
Very few of our names will live on past the people immediately surrounding us. That can be freeing if you can frame it the right way. Very few “make it”. Most just “get by”, and that’s fine.
Are you sure about that?