I would definitely say the middle. Don’t get me wrong, I avidly enjoy bdsm, but most of the “rough stuff” on pornhub doesn’t look particularly enjoyable for any party - amateur has always been better for that sort of thing.
I don’t use Tik Tok, but I believe there have also been some questionable trends regarding choking and other kink stuff being shown in unhealthy ways(constrict the bloodways, not the windpipe, folks!)
Yeah as a woman who has been involved in irl bdsm communities most of her adult life, but doesn’t really watch mainstream porn (I read what I read), I’m not surprised.
Whenever bdsm goes even remotely mainstream we get a lot of people who learned to do what we do via unreliable sources. Those sources range from “it seemed hot so I tried without thinking” to, books like 50 shades or the story of O or the gor books, to whatever the hell they hear on tiktok or fetlife or reddit or usenet… And for every person who shows up and fucks up in front of people who can correct them, it’s safe to assume there are quite a few doing stupid and dangerous shit in the privacy of their bedrooms.
I would definitely say the middle. Don’t get me wrong, I avidly enjoy bdsm, but most of the “rough stuff” on pornhub doesn’t look particularly enjoyable for any party - amateur has always been better for that sort of thing.
I don’t use Tik Tok, but I believe there have also been some questionable trends regarding choking and other kink stuff being shown in unhealthy ways(constrict the bloodways, not the windpipe, folks!)
Yeah as a woman who has been involved in irl bdsm communities most of her adult life, but doesn’t really watch mainstream porn (I read what I read), I’m not surprised.
Whenever bdsm goes even remotely mainstream we get a lot of people who learned to do what we do via unreliable sources. Those sources range from “it seemed hot so I tried without thinking” to, books like 50 shades or the story of O or the gor books, to whatever the hell they hear on tiktok or fetlife or reddit or usenet… And for every person who shows up and fucks up in front of people who can correct them, it’s safe to assume there are quite a few doing stupid and dangerous shit in the privacy of their bedrooms.