• EldritchFemininity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      11 hours ago

      Honestly, the answer is still yes. I don’t consider there to be some prerequisite quota of defying gender norms that you need to accomplish before you can identify as nonbinary. “You must be this gender queer to use this pronoun” seems as stupid to me as “you can’t be trans unless you have an official gender dysphoria diagnosis.”

      I wouldn’t consider a femboy or a he/him lesbian to be nonbinary, but I would consider somebody who looks like a femboy or a femme woman to be nonbinary if they identify as nonbinary. How somebody dresses or acts is not indicative of their gender identity. Otherwise we’re just recreating the patriarchal gender binary again with new categories.

      • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        3 hours ago

        Fair enough - for me, if someone is happy to have a typically binary gender expression / presentation, then it doesn’t make sense for them to identify as non-binary.

        I think there needs to be something, otherwise the thing to advocate for is to have no labels at all