• birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      19·
      3 days ago

      personally I have genuinely no idea what a xenogender is, but my personal opinion is

      E/T + valid + did ask + ratiowiki + win + queer + slay etc.

      for sexual and romance same, so long as it’s between consenting ppl of mature enough age, who cares

      • Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        9·
        3 days ago

        From what I experienced that’s the consensus in genderqueer circles, I haven’t seen anyone seriously arguing otherwise in awhile.

        Stuff like xenogenders or plurals I’m not really in the know but hey sounds interesting, sign me to your newsletter.

        Also as catboy adjacent, how could I begrudge someone vibing as a cat.

    • Holytimes@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      10·
      3 days ago

      To be perfectly fair, as much as the whole inclusion thing of define your self how ever you want.

      There is a reasonable point where it’s basically just a glorified fetish. And this is basically that line. Not quite over it… But like on it…

      I wouldn’t go nearly so far as to say they are the reason for people mocking the whole thing. But they do basically define themselves by the very extreme absurd standards those who mock think about when the topic is raised. Which as fucked as it is, factually doesn’t help the situation.

      It’s sorta like the line between a nudist and a exhibitionist. Even if you claim your a the former you have literally in all but name became the latter.

      There’s only so much you can reasonable push general cultural norms before frankly you are the problem not everyone else. But so long as it’s not harming anyone its entirely reasonable to be the problem.

      You just gotta acknowledge it, embrace it and share it. The problems in our lives is how we all grow after all