transcription: homophobic men are literally so gay, why are you getting mad over two men kissing? are you jealous?

  • NorthWestWind@lemmy.world
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    27 days ago

    Wasn’t there a study that showed homophobic men are more turned on by gay porn compared to non-homophobes?

    • groet@feddit.org
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      27 days ago

      This might also be a measuring problem. Quantifying “turned on” might be pretty hard and what is actually measured is more a “evokes emotional response and increases blood flow”.

      Maybe 5% horny and 30% angry measures the same as 25% horny.

        • groet@feddit.org
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          26 days ago

          I doubt they got homophobes to allow them to put a ring around their cock and measure the blood pressure while they show them gay porn.

          Much more likely they measured an EEG, general blood pressure, sweat production etc

  • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    So here’s a weird thing to think about. I’m a bi trans woman, and for a large part of my life I was unaware of those things about myself. I sometimes felt sexually attracted to men but I never enjoyed seeing gay men do stuff romantically or in porn and found it uncomfortable. This was very confusing for me. The reason it was uncomfortable was because I was trying to put myself in their position in my head, but because I’m not really a man it felt wrong so I thought I didn’t really like men. I’m not saying homophobes have that experience, they probably don’t, but ones own sexuality can be very confusing when you aren’t living your own truth because you drank the coolaid of heteronormativity.

    • Fedi-bitch@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      As a fellow trans woman, I can relate to at least some of those things. I still think I’m not really attracted to guys, but similarly, being gay was equated with bad or wrong in my young mind, so anything that gay men, or femenine guys, appreciated, sort of repulsed me. I don’t like guys and I got internally terrified of appearing like I did. I think that pushed back my realizing that I am trans for a bit. Plus not really even knowing that was a thing back then.

      • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Oh same on the internalized gay is bad. Growing up I got made fun of for anything that I did that could be remotely interpreted as gay. I didn’t really accept myself being bi until my 30s because I felt this intense shame every time I felt anything towards men. I was constantly hiding my real self and so paranoid of anyone noticing something real about me in case they would start to put it together and expose me. I still haven’t really gotten over those feelings completely. A lot of that is neurodivergent masking as well. Shit’s complicated.

  • FenrirIII@lemmy.world
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    26 days ago

    Homophobia makes no sense to me. Who cares what they do in private. From an evolutionary standpoint, it means less competition and a greater chance of passing on your genes.

  • D_C@sh.itjust.works
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    Cock and muscles are manly, therefore two (or more) cocks and more muscles are even more manly. It’s just basic maths!!

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      25 days ago

      The trick is to have enough participants that you can form a circle. If everyone is both a top and a bottom it cancels out. Certified straight

  • BanMe@lemmy.world
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    27 days ago

    This is why it’s unwise to fuck straight guys on the apps. A nonzero number of them are homophobes, I am sure not going to fuck someone whose post-nut clarity is that I should die.

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      26 days ago

      Are you saying that there is an app where straight men hook up with each other?

  • Xerxos@lemmy.ml
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    27 days ago

    Some definitively are. A lot of closeted gay homophobes try to hide their feelings by being the loudes opposition.