• Landless2029@lemmy.worldEnglish
    27·
    2 days ago

    Deadnaming is the act of calling a transgender or non-binary person by their birth name or other former forename (their ‘deadname’) after they have chosen a new name. Many transgender people change names as part of gender transition, and wish for their former name to be kept private.

    Wikipedia

    I just learned about this phrase and had to wonder why it would continue all night. Then I realized the likely hostile holidays with family and my heart sank… I feel so sorry for you. I hope you have someone to lean on. I’d bite the head off of anyone who deadnamed maliciously.

  • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
    62·
    3 days ago

    My family didn’t even verbally attack me directly or indirectly and it was still exhausting af to listen to their conversations. I envy people who really get along with their family …

  • AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    5·
    2 days ago

    I medically transitioned nearly 15 years ago and my parents still won’t use correct pronouns for me, at this point they just look like they’re going senile. But they live in Florida and rural bumfuck NH in the summers so I haven’t seen them in person in like five years.

    I was supposed to call today, but my mom hasn’t responded to my text yet so fuck em.

    • UnixSlvt42@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      8·
      2 days ago

      Lmao. I don’t think that would work in this scenario.

      I’ve been out for almost 2 years now and my mother is still saying: “I need time to mourn because my son is dead.”

    • D_C@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      101·
      2 days ago

      I’m thinking those shock collars would also be great.
      Though there’d probably be some small account of kidnapping etc and then some other plan to force the collars on their necks etc.
      However once these small wrinkles are taken care of then I can guarantee that a few zaps from those collars will sort it out quick sharp.

      (Alternatively, and boringly, just don’t go to family get togethers until they learn to not be twats. I still think the shock collar is better.)

  • VinnyDaCat@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    2 days ago

    Don’t have much to say besides treat yourself as much as you like and be kind to yourself, you do most definitely deserve it.