I don’t need any sort of isolationism pushed on me. I wouldn’t sign up for an email provider that blocks GMail because “we’re not corpo bootlickers”, or a phone provider that only lets me call the coolest fellow comrades. If an instance wants to be its own little island with its own ideology, I’m cool with that, but it’s not for me - I’m looking for an instance that behaves more like an un-opinionated public utility.
I think these are fair points. and I can’t say I blame anyone for wanting Meta/FB out of their life entirely. I see value in both options - the option of having maximum connectivity to others, and the option of having only parties that are considered to be in good ethical standing. And I’m glad the fediverse can offer both options to everyone. For me personally, having communications cut between users based on who is hosting their instance is a last resort.