Reminder: If someone constantly bitches about his colleagues, calles them idiots and acts like he is the only one who does everything right all the time. Then this person is the problem and is projecting harder than a drive-in cinema.
I recently had a meeting with my supervisor, and he was complaining about how a previous meeting ran over time and repeatedly complaining about how some former team members who moved to a different team caused the meeting to run over time because they wouldn’t just agree to do what he asked, but kept arguing with him about why it isn’t a good idea.
I had to interrupt him to point out that the meeting we were in, in which he was complaining about the previous meeting running over time because of the previous team members, had just run over time, and they weren’t in the meeting this time.
I don’t think he liked what I said, but he ended the meeting, and that’s what I wanted to happen.
He did my annual review three days later and complained that I don’t work well with others, and specifically indicated that I don’t work well with him.
He’s the only supervisor who has ever complained about me in the 36 years I’ve been working.
We’ve had two people retire last year directly because of him. There is another person who refuses to have a meeting with him unless it is recorded.
Surprised you don’t take this sort of detail up to your skip level. Corporations are not entirely blind to issues in all cases. Actually, I bet you have raised these concerns. For all the folks nodding along, talk to your boss’ boss!! You owe it to yourself to try
I have, and others have as well. It doesn’t look like the situation can be improved through the chain of command.
Although, I heard through the grapevine that he was written up by the director of a department we support. Honestly, given what I know about that person, I’m surprised he survived that. However, he did.
Yea, the having shitty coworker thing DOES happen. It’s more the, “I’m the only good one…” thing that’s the indicator. Even most actually shitty coworkers are good some of the time or else they’d hopefully be canned quickly.
And if you work somewhere where shitty people are never fired, it’s probably a good time to find another job. Unless, you know, you’re a shitty person and want job security.
It’s the complaining about it–asserting your correctness to everyone around you–that makes someone the asshole.
Everyone always thinks they’re right. If you didn’t think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.
I don’t know about that. I certainly think I’m right when I do something, but I have a healthy dose of imposter syndrome, so I tend to do a lot of testing before hand, and when something goes wrong I assume it’s my fault until I can prove otherwise.
It always seems strange to me when people need to be proven wrong. Usually when I’m wrong, I’m the person who figures it out, because I always assume problems are my fault.
The weird thing is, this leads to an enormous amount of trust in me by others, which I find exceedingly uncomfortable.
Reminder: If someone constantly bitches about his colleagues, calles them idiots and acts like he is the only one who does everything right all the time. Then this person is the problem and is projecting harder than a drive-in cinema.
This is true 100% of the time.
I recently had a meeting with my supervisor, and he was complaining about how a previous meeting ran over time and repeatedly complaining about how some former team members who moved to a different team caused the meeting to run over time because they wouldn’t just agree to do what he asked, but kept arguing with him about why it isn’t a good idea.
I had to interrupt him to point out that the meeting we were in, in which he was complaining about the previous meeting running over time because of the previous team members, had just run over time, and they weren’t in the meeting this time.
I don’t think he liked what I said, but he ended the meeting, and that’s what I wanted to happen.
He did my annual review three days later and complained that I don’t work well with others, and specifically indicated that I don’t work well with him.
He’s the only supervisor who has ever complained about me in the 36 years I’ve been working.
We’ve had two people retire last year directly because of him. There is another person who refuses to have a meeting with him unless it is recorded.
Sounds like your company hired one of my previous managers.
We routed around him until the company eventually relieved themselves of the dead weight.
Surprised you don’t take this sort of detail up to your skip level. Corporations are not entirely blind to issues in all cases. Actually, I bet you have raised these concerns. For all the folks nodding along, talk to your boss’ boss!! You owe it to yourself to try
I have, and others have as well. It doesn’t look like the situation can be improved through the chain of command.
Although, I heard through the grapevine that he was written up by the director of a department we support. Honestly, given what I know about that person, I’m surprised he survived that. However, he did.
It’s the “I’m always right” part that guarantees it
I work with a bunch of fucking idiots who regularly fuck stuff up. But I’m also a fucking idiot constantly fucking Up so I belong
Yea, the having shitty coworker thing DOES happen. It’s more the, “I’m the only good one…” thing that’s the indicator. Even most actually shitty coworkers are good some of the time or else they’d hopefully be canned quickly.
And if you work somewhere where shitty people are never fired, it’s probably a good time to find another job. Unless, you know, you’re a shitty person and want job security.
It’s the complaining about it–asserting your correctness to everyone around you–that makes someone the asshole.
Everyone always thinks they’re right. If you didn’t think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.
I don’t know about that. I certainly think I’m right when I do something, but I have a healthy dose of imposter syndrome, so I tend to do a lot of testing before hand, and when something goes wrong I assume it’s my fault until I can prove otherwise.
It always seems strange to me when people need to be proven wrong. Usually when I’m wrong, I’m the person who figures it out, because I always assume problems are my fault.
The weird thing is, this leads to an enormous amount of trust in me by others, which I find exceedingly uncomfortable.
I think this is generally true…
… except for driving. I’m the only decent driver out there.
Do their bulbs also burst far too easily?