Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I’m nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don’t really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don’t identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.

So I figure at least for now if I’m gonna be uncomfortable I’ll take the devil I know, then I’ll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.