Sorry to read that about your brother. I have similar people in my life and it’s infuriating and depressing to observe.
If you want a positive read to just reframe it in your head, hear me out. People use quotes aspirationally, right? They are summaries of our values or insights into our personalities. Maybe your brother uses that quote because he’s aware that he wants change but is unable to summon the courage. Maybe the conflict between his values and his social circle is wearing him down. Maybe he regrets a bunch of stuff and wants the chance to start over but feels trapped.
You could view your brother’s use of the quote as him being a superficial emotionally stunted dude who misunderstood the premise of the film, or you could view it as something that is meaningful to him, that hints a deeper truth. “I am Jack’s wasted life.”
Maybe. It does imply a desire to be free if that quote resonates, but his actions don’t seem to indicate seeking social freedom from his current set of friends.
There was one point when he got drunk and confided in me that he thought he really had no real friends and had an emotional melt down. But this was a long time ago and as far as I know, nothing has changed for him since then other than a new job.
Sorry to read that about your brother. I have similar people in my life and it’s infuriating and depressing to observe.
If you want a positive read to just reframe it in your head, hear me out. People use quotes aspirationally, right? They are summaries of our values or insights into our personalities. Maybe your brother uses that quote because he’s aware that he wants change but is unable to summon the courage. Maybe the conflict between his values and his social circle is wearing him down. Maybe he regrets a bunch of stuff and wants the chance to start over but feels trapped.
You could view your brother’s use of the quote as him being a superficial emotionally stunted dude who misunderstood the premise of the film, or you could view it as something that is meaningful to him, that hints a deeper truth. “I am Jack’s wasted life.”
Maybe. It does imply a desire to be free if that quote resonates, but his actions don’t seem to indicate seeking social freedom from his current set of friends.
There was one point when he got drunk and confided in me that he thought he really had no real friends and had an emotional melt down. But this was a long time ago and as far as I know, nothing has changed for him since then other than a new job.