So I talk to some curmudgeon online and decided to share the small things I’ve done to help stanger just to irritate them and get the idea that I’m making an attempt real world people. I did get an hilarious response like:

-“your one of those affluents with a savior complex thats going to “save the working class” that it was never part of”

  • “Getting off to moral superiority you have no morales or soul you dont care about people you just wana feel cool saying fuck the rich while being borgozie yourself”
  • “your just an edgy college liberal rich kid who thinks they are “winning” right now because your entire life is so empty dry and vapid you need something to feel good about the reality is your so weak pathetic and full of microplastocs and soy you could never amount to anything more than the borgozie”

But it’s funny in there desperation you get a sense that you have to help people in specific ways, in specific mental state, and be a certain background.

So what’s petty reason makes you a “bad person” for helping people or makes helping people"not count "?

  • Big Bolillo@mgtowlemmy.org
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    Even people who do things wo getting something in return do it for the satisfaction it gives to them, so if you look it that way, there is no real altruism everyone do things to get something at exchange even it being not monetary.

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      Dang didn’t expect someone to say that unirinically, people will do things out of principal to help or conviction to help. They can even hate helping other but simple see it as duty that must be done

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        Yeah I’m not saying feeling good about helping other is bad. But isn’t like real altruism exist anyway. IMHO

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    I used to know someone who believed it was mentally unhealthy to help other people. She believed people help others because they actually want to help themselves. So, the mentally healthy thing to do is to help yourself and not worry about other people. She said her psychologist told her all this.

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      I heard that expressed as “there’s no altruism, people only help to make themselves feel better”. sounds like it would be impossible to get through to them if they saying their psychologist gave them that advice

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    It seems like you’ve really got twisted up over somebody making you feel bad. I’d let it go, if I were you. You’ll only wind yourself up more.

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      10 hours ago

      Ahhh I’m just having fun trying to document excuses for people to hate on someone helping strangers. I just fascinated with pettiness

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        Well, whatever floats your boat; but I think it’s probably not worth your time dude. I’m sorry that somebody made you feel bad for doing something good, have a good eve ✌️

  • PixelPilgrim@lemmings.worldOP
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    A list so far for why Helping people doesn’t count

    • I get off to feeling morally superior
    • have no morals, be bourgeoisie
    • suspected of being a liberal capitalist
    • don’t give them knowledge to help them escape their environment
    • I educated them to stay away from The bourgeoisie
    • feel good about it.