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    3 days ago

    Im mega drunk right now but I feel like at this point whatever you like is fine and great just e mjoy it how gives a fuck how does any of this make any sense? I hate these arbitrary thresholds fembois muscle mommies whatever love is love and enjoyment is enjoyment just be yourself I love all of you for who you are I wish all humanity was as open and encompassing as all of you

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        Alcohol disinhibits us, but I don’t think it reveals our true selves. Our inhibitions are an important and truthful part of who we are. There’s a real and important difference between someone who hits on women all the time and one who only ever tries it when he’s had a glass or two.

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          I use the ‘In Vino Veritas’ phrase to remark on instances where a bit of disinhibition allows one to come to a correct conclusion by way of letting go of a bunch of bullshit performative social norms…

          … but yes, the flip side is that excess and addiction can absolutely warp a person, not ‘reveal’ them, and that your baseline inhibitions, to some extent, fundamentally are you, are your characteristics, your personality.

          And, people often say a lot of very objectively stupid bullshit when drunk as well.

          But but… a person is also to a good extent… a process, an evolving system, not a fully static thing.

          As to your example… a person who only hits on someone after a drink or two likely just has less self-confidence than a person who hits on other people often.

          But that does not mean that our … liquid courage needer… that they cannot gain self-confidence by other means, by maybe going to a bit of therapy and learning how to be reasonably proud of themselves, removing toxic, negging people from their life, engaging in self-affirming activities, reframing their view of themselves and their place or part in the world.