Just being supportive like we all are going through this together right? Also those transfems lived as a man at one point in their lives, probly heard a lot of lessons about “being a man”, may even have had a father that imparted the basic man skills. Just like transfems will listen to advice from women or transmasc, its all valid and helpful. For a group so prone to self deletes and just general loneliness and depression, extreme anxiety, and not being able to connect with people or their community depending on if theyre out or how deep in the closet they are, I feel strongly that this post just perpetuates that we are different and therefore dont belong in the same space. The transfems that see this and internalize it are now more likely to not engage with the rest of the community because their advice isn’t valued, their presence isn’t necessary, and their opinion invalidated because they made the decision to transition.
There’s already enough culture war bulls bullshit and real world threats of violence in the trans community and it doesn’t need to be furthered by a some culture war bull inside of the community.
And to every transfem (transmasc too!) You matter, your opinion matters, just because you no longer live that life does not mean you dont know anything about it. You belong in this space as much as anyone and people who react like this to someone just trying to be helpful have their own hangups.
Personally, I would welcome transmasc advice anyway because they probly know how to do makeup and I could use help. I mean, doesn’t that knowledge still apply? Like my knowledge of shaving, repair work (cars and such) beard maintenance, weightlifting, interacting with cis men etc etc?
Just being supportive like we all are going through this together right? Also those transfems lived as a man at one point in their lives, probly heard a lot of lessons about “being a man”, may even have had a father that imparted the basic man skills. Just like transfems will listen to advice from women or transmasc, its all valid and helpful. For a group so prone to self deletes and just general loneliness and depression, extreme anxiety, and not being able to connect with people or their community depending on if theyre out or how deep in the closet they are, I feel strongly that this post just perpetuates that we are different and therefore dont belong in the same space. The transfems that see this and internalize it are now more likely to not engage with the rest of the community because their advice isn’t valued, their presence isn’t necessary, and their opinion invalidated because they made the decision to transition.
There’s already enough culture war bulls bullshit and real world threats of violence in the trans community and it doesn’t need to be furthered by a some culture war bull inside of the community.
And to every transfem (transmasc too!) You matter, your opinion matters, just because you no longer live that life does not mean you dont know anything about it. You belong in this space as much as anyone and people who react like this to someone just trying to be helpful have their own hangups.
Personally, I would welcome transmasc advice anyway because they probly know how to do makeup and I could use help. I mean, doesn’t that knowledge still apply? Like my knowledge of shaving, repair work (cars and such) beard maintenance, weightlifting, interacting with cis men etc etc?